Ethan’s words at 4 years old-“Don’t underestimate me!”

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For the first of the post, I am simply copying and pasting the list I made for Ethan’s therapists and teachers when he was actually not yet 4 years old. When I have time I will probably add to it to make it up to date right at age 4. I was curious to look and post this to 1) hopefully not lose it, 2)because I was asked how many words he can say at a doctor’s appointment the other day. I made a guess at “in the 80s, probably.” I was pretty close, and I’m sure there are many words I am missing in the making of this list. When I have said this, I have been met with pleasant surprise to what seems like doubt on the other person’s part (just one person to my recollection.) It made me want to double-check and I am satisfied I gave a correct answer..also, I’m not sure why it should be surprising. Honestly, I would have thought it would be the other way around-hoping that he could say more. He definitely has room for improvement which is why he qualifies for speech three times weekly. But hey-don’t underestimate him! It’s not so unbelievable he can say at least 80 words. And no, it’s not just words he repeats and doesn’t understand-he uses the words on his own! I’m not a speech therapist, so I don’t know the lingo-but its what I would call “self-directed speech” or something like that. He is using the words for genuine communication. Does he do this consistently in all environments? Not always. Maybe his mostly quiet nature at doctors’ visits is the reason for the raised eyebrows and asking me extra questions to be sure I’m not counting words he says on his own, rather than repeated words.

I might be misreading the intent, but it got me to thinking that we probably all do that a lot to people with special needs. If there is a shy or quiet child or adult, do you assume they don’t know what is going on or have as much intelligence? Probably not. (Or maybe some of you do?) So in the same way, we shouldn’t assume a child or adult with special needs doesn’t know what is going on or can’t communicate just because they are not chatting up a storm to you. There is a slogan I’ve seen on t-shirts and so forth that says “Presume Competence” and while it may not roll off the tongue as much as some other awareness slogans, it is so important for us all to remember.

WORDS ETHAN CAN SAY CLEARLY
-no , yay! , yummy, (or mummy) mommy, “oh, yea!” daddy sissy, nin nin papa, go, hat, baby, all done, arm, eye, pee pee, night ,”hi!”, me , “Here!” (Hands things to people) , knee , hip, hop, toe, hot, “hold” (requested holding sister ), cracker, ger ger ” for tiger (could be specifically tigger or Daniel tiger sometimes ), scissors , paper, “bye”, you, me, ball, “oh, wait!”, in, on (requesting turning on a battery operated toy for example-hasn’t used for placement (“it is on the table.”) has said “I poo poo” when he went and brought me the wipes.

NAMES-bitsy, –izzy, Bella (extended family dog names ), Emmy (aunt Emily),, “Zaza”for aunt Melissa , ” kiss” (Chris) danny (uncle), said “ther ther ” once for Aunt Heather. Ana and Elsa from Frozen

“Rick” for cousin maverick (sees his often lately but doesn’t say it on his own) , “bye”, (for cousin “Levi”), “, “omi” for Naomi , caught on fast-tried to say Santa and Jesus .” aw” and sign in forehand for me maw, “Vic” pronounces “bic” (grandpas name)
“Ree ree “-Henry the octopus , also refers to any form of octopus as ree ree right now.

Letters “e”, “t”, (says and also recognizes )

“APPROXIMATIONS”-Door,boat, dog , please, more, milk, drink, water, circle, square , red, purple , blue, nose, ear, teeth, treat , house , home, banana, pretzels , yes , book, “Ethan “, (only recently ) , popcorn ,” doh “for play doh or “shadow”. “Per per”-diaper, toot (only when asked to day it, not used on his own yet ) “pone” for phone , “poon” for spoon . Still calls both forks and spoons the name “spoon”. “Bow-” for bowl (drops the l) “key key” for monkey, “-ant” for elephant, drink (just “ink” also typically signs it), cheese, blueberry (for blueberry flavorted yogurt), yogurt, poop (poo)

SIGNING ONLY WORDS- (from wha I’ve seen )-water , hungry (only once ), thirsty (recent ), “thank you”, cold,

He does gestures to get me to understand what particular show he wants at times.

PRETEND PLAY-pretended to be pirate “arg!” Or rowing boat , by those were mostly repeating behaviors from TV show so idk if it counts as true pretend play ( ?), likes to pretend everything is a hat, pretends to be animals, acts out scenes from Frozen (knocking on door and listening if he hears someone sing the snowman song)

RECEPTIVE LANGUAGE/THINGS HE UNDERSTANDS-he can point out his elbow, Tummy, belly button , knees, hips, teeth, hair, tongue, mouth, ear eye, and “privates “, toe …said “Nin Nin” when he saw a driveway with the same gravel as his Nin Nin’s house